Meditation is helpful with a number of things; its one aspect of Jedi training the I'm glad Luke turned me on to. I try to make time to do it a little bit every day, usually first thing in the morning. As is taking time to remember positive things, if I'm understanding you correctly; sometimes light is in very short supply, and those sorts of memories can make all the difference.
Yes, I can see Nine feeling that way. Given that you don't regret the change, I wouldn't really say he 'messed you up', at least not in the way you're referring to. But I bet he would; like a great many things, whether he messed you up on not depends greatly on your point of view, and from what I've seen, his point of view tends to skew into the negative when it comes to himself. His own incarnation of yourself, that is, not all of yourself in general.
[Regarding other ways to heal, Leia thinks for a moment, trying to sift out general advice from things specific to her own situation.]
Well you're doing one of them right now; reaching out to someone you trust for support. Contrary to what some might think, reaching out for help now and then doesn't make you weak or needy. Being able to admit that you don't have all the answers and that you can't do everything on your own all the time is a sign of maturity. Not to mention an important skill in a relationship.
And though it may sound counterintuitive at first, letting yourself actually feel the pain from time to time is important. Sometimes it's necessary to compartmentalize things, put mourning or anger away for a more appropriate time, but keeping things bottled up forever or trying to pretend that your feelings don't exist isn't healthy and just leaves you unprepared to deal with the emotions when they inevitably resurface. Doing that is a major flaw in the Jedi way of thinking, and I'm willing to bet was one factor in the old order's downfall.
So don't be afraid to let it out once in awhile, even if it's just in private. Break down and have a good cry. Beat the kriff out of a punching bag or training droid. Put your feelings into art or music. Type out or otherwise record an angry rant to delete later. Scream into a pillow. The method doesn't really matter as long you're not doing yourself or someone else any harm or damaging anything irreplaceable, but catharsis is important.
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Date: 2017-06-09 01:35 am (UTC)Meditation is helpful with a number of things; its one aspect of Jedi training the I'm glad Luke turned me on to. I try to make time to do it a little bit every day, usually first thing in the morning. As is taking time to remember positive things, if I'm understanding you correctly; sometimes light is in very short supply, and those sorts of memories can make all the difference.
Yes, I can see Nine feeling that way. Given that you don't regret the change, I wouldn't really say he 'messed you up', at least not in the way you're referring to. But I bet he would; like a great many things, whether he messed you up on not depends greatly on your point of view, and from what I've seen, his point of view tends to skew into the negative when it comes to himself. His own incarnation of yourself, that is, not all of yourself in general.
[Regarding other ways to heal, Leia thinks for a moment, trying to sift out general advice from things specific to her own situation.]
Well you're doing one of them right now; reaching out to someone you trust for support. Contrary to what some might think, reaching out for help now and then doesn't make you weak or needy. Being able to admit that you don't have all the answers and that you can't do everything on your own all the time is a sign of maturity. Not to mention an important skill in a relationship.
And though it may sound counterintuitive at first, letting yourself actually feel the pain from time to time is important. Sometimes it's necessary to compartmentalize things, put mourning or anger away for a more appropriate time, but keeping things bottled up forever or trying to pretend that your feelings don't exist isn't healthy and just leaves you unprepared to deal with the emotions when they inevitably resurface. Doing that is a major flaw in the Jedi way of thinking, and I'm willing to bet was one factor in the old order's downfall.
So don't be afraid to let it out once in awhile, even if it's just in private. Break down and have a good cry. Beat the kriff out of a punching bag or training droid. Put your feelings into art or music. Type out or otherwise record an angry rant to delete later. Scream into a pillow. The method doesn't really matter as long you're not doing yourself or someone else any harm or damaging anything irreplaceable, but catharsis is important.